As your child embarks on the journey of preschool, it’s not uncommon for them to experience separation anxiety. The unfamiliarity of the environment and new faces can cause tears, clinginess, and reluctance to part when dropped off at school. Time, patience and the right strategies can help to gradually manage separation anxiety in children.

Managing Separation Anxiety: Tips for Parents

  1. Gradual Familiarization: Before the actual separation, spending time with your child at the new school can foster trust. Accompany your child to class for the first few days or a week to allow them to acclimatize to the surroundings.
  2. Comfort Items from Home: Consider sending your child off with a familiar object—a cherished toy or comforting piece of clothing—to provide a sense of security throughout the day.
  3. Reassurance: Communicate clearly with your child. Let them know when you are leaving and assure them of your return. Consistency in your words and actions can provide a sense of predictability.

Accompanying your child for the first few days can encourage them to participate in school.

Use comfortable clothes from home as a source of comfort.

  1. Maintain Positivity: The way parents say goodbyes matter. Stay composed, optimistic, and cheerful. A parent’s worry or distress can influence a child’s emotions, so exude confidence and reassurance.
  2. Brief Goodbyes: Keep farewells short and simple—a quick hug or kiss can offer reassurance without prolonging the departure.
  3. Positive Reinforcement: Acknowledge and praise your child’s calm behaviour during goodbyes. Positive affirmations can reinforce their ability to manage emotions effectively.

At Kinderland Preschool @ Kuningan, teachers collaborate closely with parents to understand each child’s preferences. Our teachers provide individualized attention to children experiencing separation anxiety, offering assurance and engagement in various activities to foster comfort and friendship within the school environment.

Our teacher offering assurance to a child by sitting and engaging with her.

With parental encouragement and positive reinforcement, most children overcome separation anxiety within 3 to 4 days, although younger children might take up to 2 weeks. A promising sign of progress is when your child eagerly anticipates school and returns home with a radiant smile.

Always remember that each child copes differently, and parent’s perseverance and support are important in helping your child navigate through separation anxiety.

P.S. Parents with concerns about separation anxiety are encouraged to discuss with their centre principal or teacher possible arrangements and solutions that can help their child deal with separation anxiety.